PENGARUH PENGUNGKAPAN DIRI DAN PENYESUAIAN PERNIKAHAN TERHADAP KUALITAS PERNIKAHAN PASANGAN DENGAN CARA TA’ARUF

Hanifatusholihah Hani; Theresia Indira Shanti

doi:10.25170/manasa.v12i1.4156

Authors

Hanifatusholihah Hani Fakultas Psikologi, Universitas Katolik Indonesia Atma Jaya, Jakarta, Indonesia
Theresia Indira Shanti Fakultas Psikologi, Universitas Katolik Indonesia Atma Jaya, Jakarta, Indonesia

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.25170/manasa.v12i1.4156

Keywords:

Ta'aruf, marital quality, self-disclosure, marital adjustment

Abstract

Marriage through the method of “ta’aruf” has become popular recently. Considering that the process of marriage conducted thorugh “ta’aruf” is different from the conventional marriage process, it is interesting to examine it from the perspectives of self disclosure and marital adjustment. The aim of this study is to describe the influence of self disclosure and marital adjustment on the marital quality of couples who undergo “ta’aruf” marriage. The study employs a quantitative approach, and the participants consist of 32 respondents who are married through the “ta’aruf” method, comprising both males and females. Three measurements are utilized in this study: The Indonesian Moslem Marital Quality Scale; Self Disclosure and Relational Outcomes; and the Marital Adjustment Questionnaire. Multiple regression analysis is used as the analytical method to test the hypotheses. The findings show a significant influence of self disclosure on the marital quality of couples who marry through the “ta’aruf” method. Marital adjustment also significantly affects the marital quality of such couples. Also both self disclosure and marital adjustment have an impact on the marital quality of couples who undergo “ta’aruf” marriage. The implications of this study suggest that couples who marry through “ta’aruf” can achieve good marital quality similar to couples who opt for other methods. However, it is advisable for prospective couples who are still in the “ta’aruf” process to go deeper into understanding each other and seek information from books or literature about marriage in Islam as an effort to prepare for a higher quality marriage.

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